The Race

Is this not how single wards feel? (except the guys are wearing longer shorts)

I've been getting advice from my single friends about what they would like to hear about on this blog. Please leave a comment if you would like to discuss something!!

My friend Emma said "I guess the thing that bothers me the most is that it feels like a race to the finish line of a temple marriage. And with that perspective, it seems like it's always the prettiest, most talented, skinniest girls that win.

“That contributes to a really bad idea that girls have to fit those attributes to be happy. Dating isn't about winning, and marriage isn't about winning. The happiest people are content with themselves and find someone who loves them for who they are." 

This goes back to the pressure problem. I think it does two things: 1. some people are freaked out and want to get married like, now, or 2. some people are freaked out and push away from the social scene, not wanting to even date. 

People! How do we beat this down? The answer is simple: chillax about dating. The hard part is putting that into practice. I knew some guys in my singles ward that would go on lots of dates and the girls would call him a man-slut. We've all done this, right? The poor guy is just trying to meet people and have fun. 

So. Stop calling that guy a man-slut. And encourage other girls to do the same. Reserve that prestigious name, man-slut, to those selected few who really deserve it. I knew a handful of dudes that were TRUE man-sluts and it's worth keeping it special :)

AND! Relax about dating! Just relax. Girls, you don't have to have a date lined up this weekend. Guys, you don't have to marry the girl you take out. Just have fun, danggit!!