Our generation is experiencing a communication breakdown. I don't need to tell you about because I'm sure you know exactly what I'm talking about. But this is the question: how is it influencing dating and our relationships?
People are losing social skills. Instead of learning how to have an immediate conversation where you need to respond in time, we are free to ignore a text or edit our texts to perfection. When you are married and you're living with your spouse, you cannot erase your spoken words. You can be unintentionally hurtful and suffer the consequences. There is a general breakdown of face to face communication skills happening within our peers. People are dating less because they fear the formality of sitting alone together and talking. They fear it because they don't know how to do it!
People are losing social skills. Instead of learning how to have an immediate conversation where you need to respond in time, we are free to ignore a text or edit our texts to perfection. When you are married and you're living with your spouse, you cannot erase your spoken words. You can be unintentionally hurtful and suffer the consequences. There is a general breakdown of face to face communication skills happening within our peers. People are dating less because they fear the formality of sitting alone together and talking. They fear it because they don't know how to do it!
If you watch MTV, like me, you may have heard of the show Catfish. It's about people who have long term relationships online and they are brought together in real life. The experience isn't always what people expect. In the last episode, this girl was united with her online boyfriend of 8 months or so, only to discover that her boyfriend was a 16 year old girl. Have you or someone you've known dated online? My problem is if you can be a completely different person, how is it in any way an effective form of dating?
I know people who have met online and continued on to successful relationships. I'm not saying people should avoid socializing altogether online. The important difference is that relationships become successful when they leave the technological world and enter the real world.
I CHALLENGE you to bring your socializing back to the real world. Try to avoid asking a girl out by text (unless your in such a serious relationship that you see each other everyday and on a Wednesday you decide to take a walk at sunset and its called "a date"- then text, whatevs). Avoid texting when you're hanging out with friends(woosh, that will be the hardest one). Harass your friends when they do (that won't be as hard lol) Talk to people face to face. Our generation desperately needs it.
And why wouldn't you want to?
And why wouldn't you want to?
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